Rethinking Failure: It isn’t shameful

(Obviously, there are some failures you should be ashamed of. Especially, those you could have mitigated but hear me out.)

I think that somehow, our society has found a way to stigmatize failure. We all grow up hearing, seeing and thinking that failure is the worst thing that could possibly happen to us. Ask anyone, “what’s your biggest fear?” Most will say “failure”; that used to be one of my biggest fears too. I mean, it seems admirable that i want to succeed but if my fear of failure inhibits my ability to actually commit and work hard at the things that I love then we’ve got a problem.

You know what I think should be stigmatized? Not trying. Putting little or no effort into creating the life you want for yourself because you are afraid you will fail. Refusing to put yourself on the road to supposed “success” because you are so clouded by what will happen if you fail. And what if you do fail? You wouldn’t be the first to fail at something. It is impossible to go through life without some form of failure. Failure is one of the greatest teachers…one of the greatest pathfinders. Allow it to give the toughest backbone.

I should add that I am fully aware that failing/losing can be very painful but it is only temporary. Soon you will move past it and onto the next thing (I’m not just saying this, I’ve had my fair share of failures). One of the beauties of life is being able to look back at your failures and seeing how high they have taken you, because I honestly think that failure is a building block (a very solid one). Failure is not shameful, stay away from anyone who make you feel like it is.

I sincerely hope I can teach my children that there are many things worse than failure..things like living with regret and wasting the only life you’ve got, things like the waiter getting your order wrong when you’re in a hurry (and really hungry) and things like someone frying/eating your last plantain (the worst actually).

Like Roy Williams said “Make Peace with the possibility of failure and amputate your sense of shame.” This is one of my many life-mottos.

“May you live all the days of your life.”
May you live the best life possible.

BE REAL :- It’s okay not to be okay.

Everyone likes to be strong. Everyone likes to look their best. Everyone likes to be in control, Nobody wants to be vulnerable. Infact i believe it is human nature to always put up an every-thing-is-just-fine facade and sometimes we lie. Most times,our worlds seem to be falling apart and all we can do is just watch it fall.

i have come to understand that being a christian does not guarantee a perfect life. Being a christian guarantees that i have a perfect God who is working all the imperfect things in my life for my good. There are days when i wont be okay, i wont be happy, i wont be understand what’s going on and that’s okay. We all get those days.

The key thing is, if you cant be real with anyone, be real with God. i mean, he already knows you’re angry or confused or something of that sort. so Why pray to Him as if all is right? if you’re angry, say you’re angry. if you’re hurt, say it like it is.Just don’t be disrespectful.

Telling God how you feel doesn’t mean you don’t trust him, it doesn’t mean you don’t believe in Him, sometimes its just hard and you can tell him that and i promise God will refill you and give you all the grace you need to make it through. Isaiah 40:31 – “But those who trust in the LORD will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.”

God already knows every single detail about you (psalm 139), there’s nothing you can hide so, just be real with him. Every time i have told God that i needed Him, he has shown up. He loves you and He wants to be there for you. So Allow him to love you like only He can.

God bless.xx

What God is Teaching Me: – PUT YOUR FEELINGS ASIDE.

in the last couple of months, i have gone through an array of emotions and crazy moods and sometimes, i don’t even feel like talking to God. (i’m sure everyone has felt this way before) but still, every time, i can feel God nudging me to talk to him, to come into his presence even if its for a short time, sometimes i obey, sometimes i don’t.

Here’s a thing: you can’t worship God based on your feelings. Feelings are fleeting and there are days life will hit you hard and the last thing you will want to do is talk to God, but you’ve got to decide to talk to him anyway. God is good, no matter how you feel, regardless of what you’re going through, He is good. And the least you can do for him is talk to him and trust him. He’s got everything in control. don’t let your feelings get in the way.

they say “don’t tell God how big the storm is, tell the storm how big your God is”. i’m so thankful God has taught me this, i just had to share it with you.

God bless xxx.